What is my life purpose?
With the new year fast approaching, now is a good time to ask ourselves about our life direction, reflect and honestly assess what actions we’ve taken to support our true purpose and goals in life….not sure what those are? That’s OK, because NOW is a good time to start clarifying your values and true purpose in life!
Not believing or feeling skeptical about whether you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it, just as a lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping!
To discover your true purpose in life, first empty your mind of all the ‘false’ purposes you’ve been taught (including the idea that you may have no purpose at all). Be patient with yourself as this may take some time! There are many approaches to clarifying your life purpose, one way is to first clarify your values – this will help direct you to your life purpose. Values are not about what we want to achieve or get, they are about the kind of person we want to be in this world and how we want to behave in an ongoing basis. So in other words, our values are our hearts deepest longing for how we truly want to be in this world.
Clarifying and connecting with your values can provide you with a steady ‘anchor’ – and if you’re able to set and achieve goals in line with your hearts deepest values, you’re more likely to experience life as meaningful, fulfilling and rewarding. In contrast, the more remote we are from our values – the more our goals seem pointless, meaningless or insignificant, and it’s too easy to lose motivation, give up or get side-tracked.
Take time to connect with your values, write them down, review and revisit your values regularly, like daily or once a week, and ask yourself “How true have I been to my values?” There are many different values – literally hundreds – below are some examples:
It’s likely you’ll need to change what you’re are doing in order to live by your values, and its also likely that making these changes will bring up all sorts of uncomfortable feelings and thoughts. To truly experience genuine moments of happiness and joy, we need to be open to the possibility of unpleasant emotions in the pursuit of these. We can learn to make room for our difficult thoughts and feelings, and take effective action no matter how we feel. When we get ‘caught up’ in our feelings we can act in ways that are ineffective or impulsive. Staying true to ourselves, also means seeing our feelings and thoughts for what they really are – simply feelings and thoughts – and feelings and thoughts come and go, just like the rain, the wind and the clouds. This doesn’t mean we try to suppress or push our feelings and thoughts away, it simply means that we see them for what they really are – and if we’re spending less time fighting or struggling with them or getting so involved with them or acting on them in impulsive ways – we can then use our time and energy to take action that brings meaning, fulfillment and reward to our lives and the lives of others too.
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